Episode# 14: Transforming Sexual Shame into Empowerment

*I tried out new mini-microphones for guest episodes and apparently there is a learning curve! So, thank you again for bearing with me as I navigate this "producer" stuff on my own and continue to fail forward!! 

Okay back to this episode where I am taking the advice of Salt-N-Pepa when they sang, "Let's Talk About $eX Baby" back in 1991 and finally having the conversation about the deep connections between sexuality, shame, and self-discovery.

Join me and expert guest, Psychotherapist and Sex Therapist Christie Bemis, as we explore the roots of sexual shame, the importance of feeling safe, and the power of feminine energy.

In this episode, Christie shares her insights on...

• How childhood experiences shape our sexual wellness
• The challenges women face in embracing their changing bodies
• Practical tips for overcoming discomfort around sexuality
• Learn how to find your voice, prioritize your sexual wellness, and connect with your feminine energy.

Tune in for an enlightening discussion that promises to empower you to embrace your sexuality, heal from shame, and step fully into your feminine power!

If you want super detailed show notes, here you go! 

7:07: Exploring Shame

8:24: Who is Christie Bemis

10:58 How Inner Child Work and Sexuality are intertwined 

11:40: Sexual Shame begins in childhood 

15:19: How young boys and girls were taught and not taught sex education

18:22: What does shame do around sex?

18:55: Hitting roadblocks of a woman’s changing body

19:50: Why women need to feel safe before feeling pleasure

21:16: Why you are responsible for your “turn on” 

23:45: Where to start when anything sexual feels uncomfortable

25:20: How to explore self touch in a safe way for kids and adults 

25:55: How People Pleasing gets in the way of speaking up

28:50: How to find your voice around what you want and need

29:40: Why putting yourself in community with other women is so important

32:00: How becoming a mother can de-prioritize sexual wellness 

33:33: Allow yourself to get help just like you would go to a doctor if sick

37:40: Why we suppress our feminine energy to stay “safe” or fit in to society’s conditioning

41:04: What envy and jealously are trying to tell you about your own desires

43:08: How feeling unworthy can impact your sexuality and block your creativity, emotions, money, etc.

45:45: How to feel safe within your body and “safe enough” to explore your sexuality

47:50: Why we dim our light and how to stand in it

52:06: Why it is so important to look at your childhood wounds and your relationship with your sexuality

55:33: Why women feel safer operating in their masculine energy and have a hard time receiving

57:53: Why tapping into your feminine energy is so important, powerful, and necessary

59:00: How we can start to tap into our feminine energy

1:02:00 How to find and work with Christie Bemis

As always, if anything in this episode resonated with you, please comment and let us know! 

About Christie: Christie Bemis is a psychotherapist, a $ex educator and relationship coach, an ignite your life mentor, and author. She co-founded and now owns and operates Hot Pink YOUniversity, solo. She is a $ex Educator and Relationship Coach, trained in the Somatica® Method of relationships and intimacy building, as well as certified in Level 1 of John Gottmans work. Her work ignites women and couples to reconnect with passions, purpose and play. You can find her coaching, her book, her wisdom cards and her offerings at www.hotpinkyou.com And all of her links: https://linktr.ee/christiebemis

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