Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing

Episode #39: "Abundance in the Bedroom" and Beyond: How Brenée Royalty Found Her Purpose

Brenée Royalty had no intentions of writing the book, Abundance in the Bedroom: Four Things Women Desire From A Man, but when God spoke, she listened!
Before Brenée became an author, speaker, and mentor, she followed the path she felt she “should,” choosing a career that felt safe for her family. But at just 10 years old, her body began screaming for her attention with a rare autoimmune disorder that became the catalyst for profound emotional and spiritual healing.
In this episode, Brenée shares how she turned her pain into purpose, found her voice after being silenced by societal conditioning, and overcame imposter syndrome to step into her purpose!
Show Notes:
02:00 – Giveaway Reminder: Follow me on Facebook & Instagram
02:44 – Introducing Brenée Royalty and how we met in 2021
10:05 – Brenée’s journey of following society’s “shoulds”
16:51 – How a rare autoimmune diagnosis at age 10 changed her life
19:37 – When her self-worth was tied to achievements, and it all fell apart
26:58 – Realizing she was living her purpose and channeling her pain into her book
32:30 – Conquering self-doubt and imposter syndrome to step into her calling
37:30 – How Abundance in the Bedroom helped her shed her “Good Girl” persona and connect with her tribe 42:29 – A look into her book: Abundance in the Bedroom: 4 Things Women Desire from a Man
48:25 – Upcoming book signing (December 9th), one-on-one coaching, and workshops
53:23 – The power of just starting, even when self-doubt looms
58:53 – Asking, “Who am I to…?” and finding the courage to keep going
1:00:41 – Where to find Brenée and her book, Abundance in the Bedroom
Resources Mentioned: What services does Brenée offer? Brenee is a consultant who mentors others on how to connect to and live in their purpose through workshops and 1:1 mentorship.
Link to Purchase Abundance in the Bedroom (Paperback, Ebook, Audio Book)
FB Link to Download Start Living in Your Purpose Guide
Link to Schedule Time with Brenee 
Find Brenée on Social Media @BreneeRoyaltySpeaks IG, TT

Episode #38: Navigating the Holidays - Triggers, Emotions, and Food

In this holiday-themed episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, I’m putting my Dietitian “hat” back on to dive into the emotional, energetic, and nutritional challenges of the season. From family dynamics to food triggers, I’m sharing personal stories, practical tips, and heartfelt insights to help you navigate the holidays with grace and intention. Whether it’s managing stress, supporting your Inner Child, or creating non-negotiables for your well-being, this episode has everything you need to show up for yourself this season.
Join the Tami Talks Patreon and get a FREE Unscripted Notes to My Inner Child journal! 
Want support throughout the holidays? Schedule a 90-minute session with Tami! 
Show Notes:01:10 – Why I’m putting my Dietitian “hat” back on for this holiday episode02:51 – Join the Tami Talks Patreon and grab your FREE Unscripted Healing Journal07:35 – December is BIRTHDAY MONTH and a giveaway announcement08:40 – Special announcement about the next Inner Child Healing Retreat10:22 – Why the holidays aren’t always so “happy”15:30 – Arlo’s meltdown and my panic attack last Thanksgiving25:47 – How to emotionally support yourself during the holidays27:34 – Discussing holiday food and its connection to emotional triggers31:13 – How family projects their own childhood wounds onto you35:45 – Missed last week’s episode on reclaiming your power? Tune in!36:57 – Why we use food to avoid feeling emotions during the holidays38:33 – My favorite tool for healthy holiday eating43:00 – The emotional and energetic impact of how you eat45:10 – The biggest contributor to holiday stress and weight gain50:48 – Why “Santa Talk” can create a “betrayal wound” in kids56:15 – Setting “non-negotiables” to prioritize yourself during the holidays1:02:17 – Why your Inner Child gets upset with YOU during the holidays1:05:37 – The one habit you must maintain: drink water!1:10:48 – Practicing good energetic hygiene during the holidays1:13:18 – The importance of tending to your Inner Child during this season1:16:30 – My mic-drop moment: a message from my Inner Child to yours!
Tune in for actionable strategies, heart-centered advice, and tools to reclaim your peace and joy during the holidays. 💫

Episode #37: STOP Giving Away Your Power!

In this episode, we dive deep into reclaiming your personal power, protecting your energy, and understanding how your body and mind react to the world around you.
This episode features insights on navigating holiday triggers, handling workplace challenges, and cutting negative energetic cords. Tune in to discover how you can harness self-awareness to create more meaningful, positive connections and reclaim your power!
If anything in this episode resonated and you want help to reclaim your power, you can schedule a 90-minute "Clearing Conversation" with Tami!
Show Notes:
01:26 – Why having notes can hinder the natural flow of channeling podcast content.
04:44 – The surprising message found in a simple piece of wood.
10:00 – How to tell if something resonates with you based on your body's feedback.
11:48 – Ways we unintentionally give our power to unwanted situations and people.
17:05 – Tips for protecting your energy in the workplace.
20:50 – Techniques for cutting negative energetic cords to people and situations.
24:50 – Why forgiving someone benefits you more than the person you're forgiving.
25:44 – The impact of blocked energy on accessing your personal power (Referenced in Episode #21).
30:12 – Strategies to reclaim your power.
37:00 – Understanding how ego can lead to the loss of power.
41:09 – The reason holidays can be emotionally triggering (Referenced in Episode #16).
47:55 – Why small talk can feel draining and unfulfilling.
50:22 – Why not everyone deserves unrestricted access to your energy (Referenced in Episode #35).
55:28 – Conducting a self-assessment to identify what gives you energy and what drains it.
59:42 – What makes a session with me a unique “Clearing Conversation.”
Episodes Referenced:
Episode #21: Helping Loved Ones Transition
Episode #35: Why Being the Superhero Doesn't Actually Save Anyone
Episode #16: Be the Editor of Your Story
Episode #35: Why Being the Superhero Doesn't Actually Save Anyone

Episode #36: Redefining Masculinity: From Tough Guy to Devoted Husband

In this VERY unscripted, unfiltered, and heartfelt episode, my guest, Santino, dives deep into how he addressed his childhood wounds that fueled his "Tough Guy" persona and how he learned to embrace healthy masculine energy to become his most authentic self with the help of his wife.
In this episode, Santino redefines what it means to "be a man" making this a MUST-LISTEN episode for every couple who wants to show up better in their relationship with and for their significant other!
If you enjoy this episode, please give it a "Like" and leave a comment to help support this free channel!
Show Notes:
00:51 - The most unscripted intro and podcast EVER with Santino.
04:30 - Officially welcoming Santino after some playful shenanigans.
08:02 - Where his love for Hulk originated and how it shaped his approach to manhood.
15:25 - Santino’s childhood story and the creation of his “Tough Guy” persona.
22:55 - A rage blackout triggered by the absence of tortillas.
26:00 - The impactful comment from a priest that challenged Santino's ego.
30:45 - How Santino’s wife created a safe space for him to be his true self.
32:06 - The effects of constant moving and childhood bullying on Santino.
35:50 - How Santino nurtures a safe environment for his wife’s healthy submission.
42:25 - Insights on what women truly desire from their husbands.
49:49 - Breaking free from painkiller dependency with the support of his wife.
55:09 - The distinction between "dying for your wife" and "suffering for her."
1:04:09 - Why Santino’s “Man Card” might be revoked.
1:13:30 - Santino’s wishes for men and confronting his hardest emotion.
1:16:43 - Santino’s thoughts on what makes the best sex.
1:21:26 - How boundaries express what you need to be loved.
1:26:55 - Santino’s “Best Vacation Rule” for reconnecting with his wife.
If this episode resonated with you in any way and you want someone to hold space for you (and perhaps your significant other), please take advantage of Tami's Free Discovery Call to explore ways she can support you. 

Episode #35: Why Being The Superhero Isn't Actually Saving Anyone

In Episode #35, "Why Being a Superhero Isn’t Actually Saving Anyone," we explore the emotional weight of constantly playing the hero in other people’s lives and how it can backfire on your own well-being and goals.
From people-pleasing to boundary-setting, this episode takes a deep dive into why some of us feel compelled to save others, the toll it takes, and the liberation that comes when we step back and allow others to become their own superhero so you can become your own!
If your Inner Child is nudging you to set up a 90-minute session to dive into your story, you can use this link!
Show Notes:
00:52 – Why I recorded this episode in a Wonder Woman costume
02:24 – The most profound question I have ever been asked
06:11 – Why people take on the Superhero role in other people’s lives
13:44 – The crumbling of personal life while saving others
15:16 – How the Inner Child and body signal us through symptoms
18:57 – "Who are you if you’re not the Superhero?"
22:24 – The struggle with boundaries and building resentment
31:49 – When the Ego takes the Superhero role too far
37:14 – How couples can trigger each other’s childhood wounds
39:37 – Why people-pleasers fear and struggle with boundaries
41:40 – When helping someone actually hinders them
46:13 – Embracing the role of the "villain" in someone else’s story
49:10 – Why being seen as the villain can be liberating yet challenging

Episode #34: The Importance of Movement for Everyone

We all know movement is important, but this episode will give you a whole new outlook on why it is so important to build this foundation for kids and to never lose it as an outlet as an adult! Join me as I chat with Amanda, Tri 4 Schools director and Ironman athlete, who shares her journey of personal transformation and the life-altering “Tower Moments” after the Ironman Championship that reshaped her path. Discover how Tri 4 Schools empowers kids beyond physical fitness, why fun in movement matters at every age, and the powerful lessons Amanda learned through loss, competition, and surrender.
Please consider supporting Tri 4 Schools in providing BRAND NEW SHOES for kids who have never had a new pair of shoes! If you only listen to one part of this podcast, please go to minute 1:12:00 to hear the most heartbreaking and heartwarming story of how one pair of shoes could create an outlet for a kid that could change their life!
Show Notes:
00:52 – Thank you to our sponsor, My Fit Tribe!
02:08 – Welcoming guest Amanda M, director of Tri 4 Schools and Ironman athlete
03:40 – What is Tri 4 Schools, and how does it empower kids beyond physical activity?
09:14 – Why making physical activity FUN is key for both kids and adults
13:15 – Amanda’s mom’s powerful childhood message that stayed with her
20:34 – Why coming in last can be a win: a proud moment with my daughter
23:40 – Amanda’s life-altering experiences that reshaped her outlook
32:00 – Lessons from loss: the real power of movement 39:51 – How a fear of failure is formed when you never experience losing
46:16 – Embracing “Tower Moments” and the value of isolation in healing
50:09 – Amanda’s world shifts after competing in the Ironman World Championship
55:55 – When achievements and routines are merely bandaids
1:00:12 – Amanda’s return to triathlons and keeping her Ego in check
1:05:22 – The magic of surrendering, trusting, and reconnecting with your Inner Child
1:09:38 – Discovering gifts in painful moments and understanding Soul Contracts
1:12:00 – The heartwarming story of a child and the impact of one new pair of shoes – a must-listen moment 1:19:27 – How to support Tri 4 Schools: volunteer, donate, or join the Birdie Derby on Thanksgiving!
Links to Support Tri 4 Schools: 
Tri 4 Schools
Birdie Derby
Episodes Mentioned:
#33: Help & Hope Through Recovery: https://youtu.be/OFKfzFmDCYE
#18: Turning Pain Into Purpose (Korbey): https://youtu.be/IrVFV_rRvt8
#2 Lose Yourself to Find Yourself: https://youtu.be/XpMJAb2rkxo
Sponsor: My Fit Tribe
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Episode #33: Help & Hope Through Recovery

In Episode #33, I’m joined by Kevin Florek, CEO of Tellurian, to dive deep into the connections between mental health, addiction, homelessness, and healing from trauma. We explore Tellurian’s unique approach to behavioral health services, the relationship between addiction and childhood wounds, and why sharing our struggles is so important.
Kevin not only addresses the stigma around mental health, but he provides such a relatable analogy to help everyone feel seen and understood, no matter the severity of their struggle.
Kevin also shares his story about how he went from wanting to be a cop to becoming the CEO of Tellurian and I turn the table to show him how he followed his Intuition and continues to honor his Inner Child! Whether you're on a recovery journey, a healing journey, or simply curious about how to support others, this episode is filled with valuable insights, hope, and how you can help. Kevin and I joked around too, because he values the importance of having fun, in everything we do, just as much as I do!
Show Notes:
00:51 - Welcome my guest, Kevin Florek, CEO of Tellurian.
01:35 - What is Tellurian, how did it get started, and who does it serve?
03:27 - What makes Tellurian different from other mental health-behavioral services.
04:35 - Why I reached out to Tellurian after Krista’s episode and the importance of sharing our struggles.
06:06 - Everyday habits and the elements of “addiction.”
07:00 - Connection between addiction and childhood trauma.
09:38 - Why I share the behind-the-scenes of my healing journey.
15:50 - How Tellurian can benefit even those who are not in crisis.
17:35 - Understanding the difference between Big T and Small T Trauma.
19:50 - Kevin’s journey to becoming CEO and following his intuition.
24:00 - The power of stories and validating experiences.
25:14 - The story of “Chandra’s House of Hope.”
31:52 - Breaking the stigma of men seeking help for their mental health.
34:48 - How isolation impacts addiction and suicide rates.
37:00 - Tellurian's services beyond detox support.
38:38 - Not-a-Gala event on February 28th, 2025, and ways to get involved.
42:25 - The importance of daily work in recovery and healing.
48:10 - Trusting your intuition and the gifts it can bring.
57:00 - Balancing work and play.
59:26 - Kevin's childhood and how he honors his Inner Child today.
Resources:
Learn more about Tellurian
Chandra’s House of Hope
Support Tellurian’s Mission
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Episode #32: Tempted to Give Up - When Obstacles Feel Overwhelming

“You should start a podcast,” they said, “It’ll be fun.” And it has been—fun, rewarding, but also incredibly challenging. After another devastating episode loss due to tech issues with my new computer, I felt so defeated.
My Ego was ready to quit, and I was almost convinced to follow. But I believe in showing the process—the good, the bad, and the messy, behind-the-scenes struggles—whether it’s in my healing journey or producing this podcast.
In this week’s episode, I’m keeping it real and sharing what went down. Because, as they say, “shit happens,” but you can either quit or, as the late Aaliyah sang, “Dust yourself off and try again.”
Thanks to all the Tami Talks listeners who continue to press play as I navigate this bumpy ride.
If you would like to support the Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing Podcast and become an official "Patreon," you can use this link to become part of the Tami Tribe! 
Show Notes:
2:30 - What is your healing journey worth to you (and your Inner Child)?
10:40 - Why this was NOT the episode I had planned and how doubt started to creep in
13:16 - Why I started to get scared after going through so many life changes
17:52 - Why I had to scrap the inspiring 90-minute conversation that was supposed to be this week’s episode
24:37 - Why birthdays and asking for help are hard these days
26:30 - Why it’s so hard to ride the emotional rollercoaster and focus on the positives
29:50 - What raising beef cattle and my podcast have in common
33:55 - Why this will probably be my least favorite podcast and why I am firing myself as a podcast producer
35:13 - Technology is not my “Zone of Genius” as discussed in the book, The Big Leap
35:40 - Why my fears have been blocking me and this podcast’s success
37:08 - Why I set up a Podcast Patreon when I started this podcast and then never talked about it
41:00 - How you can get a Tami Talks: “Unscripted Notes to My Inner Child” Journal sent to you
44:00 - Why you need to keep doing the “Cha Cha” when it comes to your goals and dreams

Episode #31: Navigating Relationships & Childhood Trauma

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Laura to unpack the complexities of healing from childhood trauma and its impact on our adult relationships. Laura bravely shares her personal story of feeling both inadequate and "too much," revealing how these experiences shaped her approach to love and self-worth. Together, we explore the connections between past wounds and present behaviors, including people-pleasing and the fear of rejection in dating.
This conversation encourages us to embrace our feelings and recognize that true healing requires vulnerability, self-reflection, and a lot of love for our Inner Child.
If you would like to connect to be seen and heard in your story, please use this link to schedule a free Discovery Call with Tami. 
Podcast Mentioned: The Visible Women Podcast
Episode #9: Check Yourself Before You Project Yourself
Show Notes:
00:51 – Welcome to this week’s "therapy session" with Laura
03:37 – Laura shares her childhood story of feeling both not good enough and too much
07:23 – The role of dating in triggering abandonment wounds and fears of rejection
09:50 – Exploring people-pleasing as a form of self-abandonment
15:37 – How feelings of unworthiness block love and opportunities
20:33 – Laura discusses her experience with Bariatric Surgery and the projections of others
23:37 – Processing childhood memories to connect past and present
25:32 – The importance of emotional support during traumatic events
27:26 – How a parent’s wounds affect their ability to nurture
32:15 – Moving through anger and grief toward compassion and forgiveness
34:08 – Ego's role in blocking healing through blame and deflection
35:40 – Healing within relationships: a shared journey
37:36 – Parenting as a reflection of our own childhood experiences
39:40 – Understanding that healing occurs in layers, urging deeper exploration
41:47 – Compounding wounds and the challenge of “just getting over it”
43:27 – The Ego’s search for validation of unworthiness
44:38 – The need to stop objectifying bodies, especially those of children
49:10 – Laura's experience setting boundaries in a relationship with a partner with a porn addiction
55:28 – Recognizing that people meet us at the level of their own healing
57:52 – The alignment of what’s meant for you when you’re ready
1:01:20 – Discussing the desire for more coaching and healing sessions outdoors
1:01:44 – Why many women struggle with being alone
1:02:44 – The concept of rejection as divine protection
1:04:50 – Defining toxic positivity and the need to process feelings
1:07:59 – The search for external validation
1:13:53 – The power of “Bless and Release” in emotional healing
1:19:07 – Understanding projections 

Episode #30: Healing Through Darkness & How To Find The Light

In this deeply personal and unscripted episode, I share why this week’s podcast almost didn’t happen. From navigating the intense energy of the current eclipse to grappling with a sudden darkness that overcame me, I open up about how I reached out for help when I wasn’t okay.
Together with Erika, we explore what it means to support someone in a dark place, embrace spiritual gifts despite the doubt and confusion, and trust the power of intuition. If you’re feeling lost or struggling, remember—you are not alone. This episode is dedicated to finding comfort, relinquishing control, and holding space for one another.
If you need someone to hold space for while you find your way through a dark chapter, please don't hesitate to reach out: www.unscriptedhealingwi.com
Show Notes:
08:00 – How the current eclipse energy is impacting people10:30 – The "I’m not okay" text message I sent to Erika13:05 – How to support someone who is in a dark place16:40 – What it feels like to be an Empath and trust your Intuition22:57 – Erika’s journey of accepting her spiritual gifts despite her religious upbringing26:23 – Discerning when Ego is telling stories and how to detach from them27:58 – How this unscripted podcast came to be31:36 – The power of trusting your Intuition36:36 – Finding and receiving comfort when going through a tough time39:04 – The meaning of "holding space" for someone40:18 – A house plant’s lesson on the need for self-care43:49 – The challenges of uncovering and understanding spiritual gifts45:48 – You don’t have to process difficult emotions in private48:14 – The importance of relinquishing control53:55 – Suicide prevention: reach out if you’re feeling hopeless59:00 – Building the Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing Podcast Community59:30 – You are not alone – find the light in the darkness
Suicide Prevention Resources:
If you or someone you know is struggling with thoughts of suicide, please reach out for support.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (US): Call or text 988
Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
International Helplines: Find local resources hereYou are not alone. There is hope, and help is available.