Tami Talks: Stories to Heal Your Inner Child

Sometimes the universe doesn’t whisper — it drops a safety pole on your head!
That wake-up call pushed Brie Pawlak to realize that a “safe” engineering job wasn’t truly safe if it meant abandoning their soul’s purpose.
In this Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing episode, Tami Schiltz and Brie dive into awakening, healing childhood patterns, and aligning with your true frequency. They explore how to trust change, practice energetic hygiene, and find real safety through presence and self-love.
Brie also shares insights from their Lightworker Strong Challenge, a space for empaths and healers to rise in community and embody their light.
If you’ve been feeling the nudge to realign, release, or rise — this one’s for you!
The 5-Day Lightworker Strong Challenge starts Monday, October 20th! 
Show Notes: 
00:00 Introduction and Connection
02:44 Journey of Self-Discovery
05:31 Understanding Identity and Pronouns
08:28 Spiritual Awakening and Transformation
11:31 The Call to Change
14:37 Presence and Inner Work
17:33 Energetic Hygiene and Frequency
20:32 Healing and Transformation
23:22 Lightworker's Challenge and Tools for Growth
28:51 Transformational Energies and Frequency Shifts
31:19 Navigating Energetic Changes and Eclipse Effects
36:10 Understanding Timelines and Frequency Alignment
37:44 Exploring Gene Keys and Soul Alignment
40:48 The Power of Choice and Embracing Change
45:25 Trusting the Process and Letting Go
50:27 Healing Patterns and Embracing Vulnerability
54:29 The Importance of Support and Community
01:01:45 Identifying as a Light Worker and Seeking Purpose
01:02:41 Awakening the Lightworker Within
01:04:00 Embracing Your Unique Energy
01:05:23 Maintaining Your Light in Challenging Times
01:07:48 The Power of Community and Connection
01:08:18 The Call to Action in the Age of Aquarius
01:10:34 Building a Strong Foundation for Growth
01:11:28 The Lightworker Strong Challenge
01:13:32 Bringing Light to a Fractured World

After gaining and losing 80–100 pounds five times, Julie finally realized that she didn’t need fixing — she needed healing. That curiosity sparked a five-year journey through pain, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, grief, ultimately leading her back to the truest version of herself.
Through vulnerability, self-compassion, and honest reflection, Julie shares how she began to release old patterns, reconnect with her body, and rediscover joy in the simple moments.
Timestamps & Highlights:
00:00 – Introduction to Healing Journeys
02:15 – Who is Julie / Background & Community Involvement
04:56 – How Julie and Tami Met
08:04 – Early struggles with self-worth & joy
12:03 – Growing up in a “Leave it to Beaver” family
17:30 – Embracing imperfection & the ongoing healing journey
20:32 – Setting boundaries & prioritizing herself
22:35 – Realizing emotions are a strength, not weakness
28:38 – Lessons from her mother & family legacy
37:18 – Grief as a catalyst for deeper self-healing
41:22 – Childhood influences & people-pleasing patterns
49:39 – Healing’s ripple effect on relationships
55:12 – Vulnerability in relationships & leadership
01:04:52 – Gratitude for support through healing journeys
01:10:53 – Understanding comfort food & emotional cues
01:11:52 – Full circle moments & personal growth
Key Takeaways:
Healing is about reconnecting with your authentic self, not fixing yourself.
Vulnerability is a strength that deepens connection and personal growth.
Boundaries and prioritizing yourself are essential for long-term well-being.
Grief and loss can catalyze transformation and self-discovery.
The ripple effect: healing yourself naturally supports those around you.

Jared Markiewicz’s story started long before opening up his gym, Functional Integrated Training. Growing up as an only child with an absent father working to provide, he often struggled to feel seen. After losing the “big brother” energy he once found with neighborhood friends, Jared carried the sting of abandonment. That wound shaped his mission to become the “big brother” figure he once needed, whether training at his gym, mentoring high-achieving men, or showing up daily for his daughters and the young girls on their team.
For over 13 years, Jared has helped busy parents and professionals thrive through strength training, small group coaching, and mentorship. In this heartfelt conversation, Tami and Jared go beyond fitness to explore its impact on fatherhood, failure, and fulfillment. They dive into how childhood experiences shape purpose, why presence matters more than perfection, and the ripple effect of physical health on emotional well-being and relationships.
Takeaways:
How childhood wounds shape leadership and purpose
Fitness as a foundation for emotional connection & self-worth
Progress over perfection in growth, parenting, and coaching
The power of validation, repair, and mentorship
Why being physically healthy impacts kids’ emotional health
Connect with Jared:Instagram: @coachjmarkFacebook & LinkedIn: Jared MarkiewiczFunctional Integrated TrainingFIT Legacy

In this episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, Tami takes you on a journey of breaking through invisible blocks — but not in the way you might expect. From a hike full of barriers (and bugs) that mirrored life’s obstacles, to the moment in the gym when “I’m dying” really meant “I’m alive,” these stories reveal how fear, conditioning, and old beliefs disguise themselves as protection — when in reality, they’re keeping us stuck.
Through lessons in nature, community, and even her own body demanding attention, Tami unpacks what it really means to trust the unseen, lean into intuition, and let faith lead the way.
If you’ve been exhausted, second-guessing yourself, or waiting for the “perfect” path to appear, this episode is your reminder that clarity comes in motion — and your path isn’t meant to look like anyone else’s.
✨ You’re not broken. You’re realigning. And sometimes the bugs, the barriers, and even the burn are proof that you’re exactly where you need to be. 
Show Notes:
00:00 – Welcome to Unscripted Healing
02:22 – When the Universe Gets Your Attention
04:18 – Lessons from the F45 Community
06:02 – A Live Example of Subconscious Blocks
09:56 – Climbing Higher at Ferry Bluff – what a hike taught me 
18:40 – Paving Your Own Path
22:57 – Women Supporting Women
30:47 – What Happens When You “Make It Big”
36:00 – You’re Not Dying in the Gym –
40:16 – What If You Already Knew It Would Work Out?
44:23 – Why This Episode Feels Different
52:31 – When Ego’s Fear Gets Loud
1:00:37 – Asking for Help – from my ex
1:04:00 – Closing Reflections 

In this Tami Talks - Soul Talk episode, I sit down with my friend Odalo for a raw, unfiltered conversation about healing, spirituality, and the fire of personal growth. Together, we explore the deeper layers of what it means to grow beyond old patterns, reclaim our truth, and step into authenticity.
This isn’t a “typical” self-help chat! It’s about the messy, real, and transformative journey we’re all on. We basically hit "record" and let the conversation go from there! Enjoy!
Together we explore:
How speaking your truth can change everything
Healing is a lifelong journey that asks for patience and self-compassion.
The difference between religious belief and personal spirituality
Anger, when embraced, can be a powerful tool for transformation.
Success is not about societal standards but about personal fulfillment.
Authenticity and vulnerability are what rebuild trust and deepen connection.
Growth often comes through the fire — the moments that stretch and challenge us most.
This conversation dives beneath surface-level “self-help” and into the real work of growth — facing wounds, leaning into discomfort, and embracing the fire that shapes who we become.
Show Notes:
4:44 – How Odalo and I first met
11:59 – A pivotal moment when Odalo chose to speak his truth
22:22 – The gift of time to grow and change
27:42 – The problem with too much or not enough anger
29:10 – When Odalo flips the script on me
39:26 – True measures of success
46:00 – How I track my growth
49:30 – Why we fail as humans and lose trust in one another
1:00:00 – Why Korbey’s episode triggered my ego
1:08:40 – How the “hard stuff” can make you stronger

In this episode, Tami dives deep into clarity, purpose, and connection, and why so many of us unconsciously dim our own light. She explores how fear of judgment and self-sabotage often mask an even deeper fear: the fear of our own power.
Tami shares personal stories, reflections on the recent eclipse, and the pivotal moment she overcame her fear of being fully seen. This is your permission slip to stop playing small and start showing up as the brightest, fullest version of YOU.
Links Mentioned in the Episode:
Venustas Heated Vest
F45 Training Madison West - Back 2 School FREE Week, Sept 15-20th
Maria's Virtual Summit
Chapters:
00:00 – Introduction to Unscripted Healing
03:06 – Back to School Free Week Announcement
03:59 – The Power of Connection and Timing
08:26 – When God Sends Gifts Through Football Tickets & DMs
11:29 – Cosmic Energy and Lunar Eclipse Significance
13:49 – What You Really Fear Isn’t Judgment—It’s Your Own Power
19:51 – How the Ego Dims Your Light Through Self-Sabotage
25:03 – Reflecting on Triggers and Personal Growth
27:24 – Embracing Your Inner Light 30:01 – The Power of Authenticity
34:04 – Where You’re Still Playing Small
37:02 – The Moment I Overcame Fear of My Own Power
38:58 – The Impact of Your Message
41:31 – Midlife Crisis or Midlife Awakening
46:30 – The Word: The Energy We’re Being Called to Embody

Back-to-school is about more than schedules and supplies. It’s a chance to heal. In this episode, I share the first-day-of-middle-school adventures with my daughter, how burnout crept up on me, and why parents need to “check themselves before they project themselves.” Together, we’ll talk about supporting kids emotionally, recognizing when our old wounds are triggered, and why parenting isn’t about perfection, it’s about connection.
In this episode, you’ll hear about:
The real-life parenting moment that turned into an inner child healing lesson
Why burnout sneaks up on parents and how to spot the signs
What it means when kids aren’t opening up—and how to build trust
How to check yourself before you project yourself (and why radical responsibility matters)
The importance of creating safe spaces for communication at home
How meeting emotional needs (to be seen, heard, accepted, valued, and loved) changes family dynamics
Whether you’re a parent navigating back-to-school chaos or someone healing your own inner child, this episode will give you practical tools, heartfelt stories, and reminders that healing happens in connection.
Show Notes: 1:54 – Why I postponed this week’s episode2:50 – FREE Back to School Week at F45 (Sept 15–20)7:10 – My sister helped me see the burnout coming9:36 – Andy Weins Episode11:59 – First day of middle school “healing moments”19:19 – Using back-to-school to support your inner child23:20 – Parenting isn’t about perfection—it’s about connection51:32 – Check Yourself Before You Project Yourself / Heal, So Your Kids Don’t Have To54:19 – What it means if your kids aren’t opening up55:55 – That time when Aria didn’t feel safe in my energy

Feeling deeply isn’t easy—but it can be beautiful. Tami and Scott, from The Assist Podcast, dive into what it means to live as empaths, including Scott’s life-changing near-death experience. If you’ve ever been told you’re “too sensitive” or felt weighed down by the emotions of others, you’ll resonate with this episode. They discuss self-discovery, trauma, parenting, and building meaningful connections for those ready to feel, heal, and grow.
Whether you’re navigating your own empath journey, supporting your kids through relationships, or simply seeking to understand yourself more deeply, this episode will remind you that healing happens in connection—and that we’re not meant to do life alone.
Show Notes:
1:34 – Scott isn’t a creeper (and the coffee shop mix-up)
4:00 – “Empaths in the wild” & challenging gender roles
9:30 – Why we self-sabotage (The Assist Podcast)
11:24 – Growing up as an empathic kid
17:09 – The death of Scott’s former self
20:32 – Stop chasing butterflies—build the garden
24:38 – How we learned we were empaths (Episode 2) 
34:45 – Parenting, modeling conversations, & Episode 75 call-back
47:35 – Don’t close doors on healing connections
57:00 – Embracing authenticity
1:01:34 – Why deep connections can feel scary
1:20:00 – Scott’s go-to “cry movie” 1:22:22 – The Assist Podcast: Tami's Episode

What if your workouts and nutrition aren’t failing because of discipline but because of your inner child? In this episode, we dive into the deep connection between exercise, nutrition, trauma healing, and reparenting your inner child. You’ll learn why your inner child rebels when health feels like punishment, how your ego sabotages your fitness goals, and why showing up without “tools” (fuel, rest, or support) leaves your body unable to build the strong, healthy life you want.
F45 Grand Re-Opening Promos End August 31, 2025!
We’ll explore:
Why movement is medicine for stored energy, emotions & trauma
How neglecting nutrition after a workout is like showing up to a job site without tools
The 3 people you must keep your promises to: your inner child, tomorrow-you, and 80-year-old-you
The worthiness wound — and why healing it changes everything about fitness, food & self-care
Strength training as a metaphor for life, growth, and proving your inner child right: you are capable
If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why do I keep sabotaging myself?” or “Why do I fall off track when things are going well?” this conversation will help you break free from old patterns and see fitness, health, and self-love in a whole new way.
👉 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who needs the reminder: you are worthy, strong, and capable of healing.
Show Notes: 
00:00 Introduction and Emotional Journey
03:23 The Role of Water in Healing
05:42 Experiencing Movement and Its Spiritual Significance
08:19 The Complicated Relationship with Fitness
11:09 Creating a Supportive Environment
13:15 The Importance of Functional Fitness
16:28 Inner Child and Movement
18:37 Making Promises to Yourself
21:23 Nutrition and Self-Care
24:12 Long-Term Health and Aging
26:34 Confidence and Self-Expression in Fitness
34:08 Healing Through Nutrition and Movement
40:31 Empowering Strength and Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
48:33 The Importance of Nutrition and Hydration
54:12 Reparenting Your Inner Child
01:08:49 Making Promises to Your Inner Child

What happens when a relationship shows you the deepest parts of yourself you were previously afraid to face? In this episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, I share how the last 5 months in a deeply transformative relationship helped me see where I was still abandoning myself, where my voice needed to grow louder, and how love can hold space for mutual healing.
From the start, we both knew we didn’t know how long God would keep us in each other’s lives. This experience reminded me that some people are sent only for a season — long enough to deliver the lessons we’re ready for.
You’ll hear about:
How relationships can help heal the father wound
The role of vulnerability and compassion in growth
Why trusting God’s bigger plan brings peace during endings
Lessons in honoring your journey and the other person’s journey
If you’ve ever felt a deep connection that cracked you open in unexpected ways, this conversation is for you.
If you want to catch up on the previous podcasts mentioned in this episode regarding this relationship, check out episodes #64 and #65. 
Show Notes:
00:00 Navigating Emotional Turmoil
10:10 Understanding Father Wounds
22:06 Healing Through Connection
34:47 Navigating Difficult Conversations
37:14 Setting Boundaries in Relationships
40:38 Understanding Soul Contracts
42:59 Healing Through Connection with Parents
46:11 Symbolism of Water in Healing
54:01 Embracing Personal Growth and Healing
01:02:50 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Community