Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing

Episode #36: Redefining Masculinity: From Tough Guy to Devoted Husband

In this VERY unscripted, unfiltered, and heartfelt episode, my guest, Santino, dives deep into how he addressed his childhood wounds that fueled his "Tough Guy" persona and how he learned to embrace healthy masculine energy to become his most authentic self with the help of his wife.
In this episode, Santino redefines what it means to "be a man" making this a MUST-LISTEN episode for every couple who wants to show up better in their relationship with and for their significant other!
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Show Notes:
00:51 - The most unscripted intro and podcast EVER with Santino.
04:30 - Officially welcoming Santino after some playful shenanigans.
08:02 - Where his love for Hulk originated and how it shaped his approach to manhood.
15:25 - Santino’s childhood story and the creation of his “Tough Guy” persona.
22:55 - A rage blackout triggered by the absence of tortillas.
26:00 - The impactful comment from a priest that challenged Santino's ego.
30:45 - How Santino’s wife created a safe space for him to be his true self.
32:06 - The effects of constant moving and childhood bullying on Santino.
35:50 - How Santino nurtures a safe environment for his wife’s healthy submission.
42:25 - Insights on what women truly desire from their husbands.
49:49 - Breaking free from painkiller dependency with the support of his wife.
55:09 - The distinction between "dying for your wife" and "suffering for her."
1:04:09 - Why Santino’s “Man Card” might be revoked.
1:13:30 - Santino’s wishes for men and confronting his hardest emotion.
1:16:43 - Santino’s thoughts on what makes the best sex.
1:21:26 - How boundaries express what you need to be loved.
1:26:55 - Santino’s “Best Vacation Rule” for reconnecting with his wife.
If this episode resonated with you in any way and you want someone to hold space for you (and perhaps your significant other), please take advantage of Tami's Free Discovery Call to explore ways she can support you. 

Episode #35: Why Being The Superhero Isn't Actually Saving Anyone

In Episode #35, "Why Being a Superhero Isn’t Actually Saving Anyone," we explore the emotional weight of constantly playing the hero in other people’s lives and how it can backfire on your own well-being and goals.
From people-pleasing to boundary-setting, this episode takes a deep dive into why some of us feel compelled to save others, the toll it takes, and the liberation that comes when we step back and allow others to become their own superhero so you can become your own!
If your Inner Child is nudging you to set up a 90-minute session to dive into your story, you can use this link!
Show Notes:
00:52 – Why I recorded this episode in a Wonder Woman costume
02:24 – The most profound question I have ever been asked
06:11 – Why people take on the Superhero role in other people’s lives
13:44 – The crumbling of personal life while saving others
15:16 – How the Inner Child and body signal us through symptoms
18:57 – "Who are you if you’re not the Superhero?"
22:24 – The struggle with boundaries and building resentment
31:49 – When the Ego takes the Superhero role too far
37:14 – How couples can trigger each other’s childhood wounds
39:37 – Why people-pleasers fear and struggle with boundaries
41:40 – When helping someone actually hinders them
46:13 – Embracing the role of the "villain" in someone else’s story
49:10 – Why being seen as the villain can be liberating yet challenging

Episode #34: The Importance of Movement for Everyone

We all know movement is important, but this episode will give you a whole new outlook on why it is so important to build this foundation for kids and to never lose it as an outlet as an adult! Join me as I chat with Amanda, Tri 4 Schools director and Ironman athlete, who shares her journey of personal transformation and the life-altering “Tower Moments” after the Ironman Championship that reshaped her path. Discover how Tri 4 Schools empowers kids beyond physical fitness, why fun in movement matters at every age, and the powerful lessons Amanda learned through loss, competition, and surrender.
Please consider supporting Tri 4 Schools in providing BRAND NEW SHOES for kids who have never had a new pair of shoes! If you only listen to one part of this podcast, please go to minute 1:12:00 to hear the most heartbreaking and heartwarming story of how one pair of shoes could create an outlet for a kid that could change their life!
Show Notes:
00:52 – Thank you to our sponsor, My Fit Tribe!
02:08 – Welcoming guest Amanda M, director of Tri 4 Schools and Ironman athlete
03:40 – What is Tri 4 Schools, and how does it empower kids beyond physical activity?
09:14 – Why making physical activity FUN is key for both kids and adults
13:15 – Amanda’s mom’s powerful childhood message that stayed with her
20:34 – Why coming in last can be a win: a proud moment with my daughter
23:40 – Amanda’s life-altering experiences that reshaped her outlook
32:00 – Lessons from loss: the real power of movement 39:51 – How a fear of failure is formed when you never experience losing
46:16 – Embracing “Tower Moments” and the value of isolation in healing
50:09 – Amanda’s world shifts after competing in the Ironman World Championship
55:55 – When achievements and routines are merely bandaids
1:00:12 – Amanda’s return to triathlons and keeping her Ego in check
1:05:22 – The magic of surrendering, trusting, and reconnecting with your Inner Child
1:09:38 – Discovering gifts in painful moments and understanding Soul Contracts
1:12:00 – The heartwarming story of a child and the impact of one new pair of shoes – a must-listen moment 1:19:27 – How to support Tri 4 Schools: volunteer, donate, or join the Birdie Derby on Thanksgiving!
Links to Support Tri 4 Schools: 
Tri 4 Schools
Birdie Derby
Episodes Mentioned:
#33: Help & Hope Through Recovery: https://youtu.be/OFKfzFmDCYE
#18: Turning Pain Into Purpose (Korbey): https://youtu.be/IrVFV_rRvt8
#2 Lose Yourself to Find Yourself: https://youtu.be/XpMJAb2rkxo
Sponsor: My Fit Tribe
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Episode #33: Help & Hope Through Recovery

In Episode #33, I’m joined by Kevin Florek, CEO of Tellurian, to dive deep into the connections between mental health, addiction, homelessness, and healing from trauma. We explore Tellurian’s unique approach to behavioral health services, the relationship between addiction and childhood wounds, and why sharing our struggles is so important.
Kevin not only addresses the stigma around mental health, but he provides such a relatable analogy to help everyone feel seen and understood, no matter the severity of their struggle.
Kevin also shares his story about how he went from wanting to be a cop to becoming the CEO of Tellurian and I turn the table to show him how he followed his Intuition and continues to honor his Inner Child! Whether you're on a recovery journey, a healing journey, or simply curious about how to support others, this episode is filled with valuable insights, hope, and how you can help. Kevin and I joked around too, because he values the importance of having fun, in everything we do, just as much as I do!
Show Notes:
00:51 - Welcome my guest, Kevin Florek, CEO of Tellurian.
01:35 - What is Tellurian, how did it get started, and who does it serve?
03:27 - What makes Tellurian different from other mental health-behavioral services.
04:35 - Why I reached out to Tellurian after Krista’s episode and the importance of sharing our struggles.
06:06 - Everyday habits and the elements of “addiction.”
07:00 - Connection between addiction and childhood trauma.
09:38 - Why I share the behind-the-scenes of my healing journey.
15:50 - How Tellurian can benefit even those who are not in crisis.
17:35 - Understanding the difference between Big T and Small T Trauma.
19:50 - Kevin’s journey to becoming CEO and following his intuition.
24:00 - The power of stories and validating experiences.
25:14 - The story of “Chandra’s House of Hope.”
31:52 - Breaking the stigma of men seeking help for their mental health.
34:48 - How isolation impacts addiction and suicide rates.
37:00 - Tellurian's services beyond detox support.
38:38 - Not-a-Gala event on February 28th, 2025, and ways to get involved.
42:25 - The importance of daily work in recovery and healing.
48:10 - Trusting your intuition and the gifts it can bring.
57:00 - Balancing work and play.
59:26 - Kevin's childhood and how he honors his Inner Child today.
Resources:
Learn more about Tellurian
Chandra’s House of Hope
Support Tellurian’s Mission
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Episode #32: Tempted to Give Up - When Obstacles Feel Overwhelming

“You should start a podcast,” they said, “It’ll be fun.” And it has been—fun, rewarding, but also incredibly challenging. After another devastating episode loss due to tech issues with my new computer, I felt so defeated.
My Ego was ready to quit, and I was almost convinced to follow. But I believe in showing the process—the good, the bad, and the messy, behind-the-scenes struggles—whether it’s in my healing journey or producing this podcast.
In this week’s episode, I’m keeping it real and sharing what went down. Because, as they say, “shit happens,” but you can either quit or, as the late Aaliyah sang, “Dust yourself off and try again.”
Thanks to all the Tami Talks listeners who continue to press play as I navigate this bumpy ride.
If you would like to support the Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing Podcast and become an official "Patreon," you can use this link to become part of the Tami Tribe! 
Show Notes:
2:30 - What is your healing journey worth to you (and your Inner Child)?
10:40 - Why this was NOT the episode I had planned and how doubt started to creep in
13:16 - Why I started to get scared after going through so many life changes
17:52 - Why I had to scrap the inspiring 90-minute conversation that was supposed to be this week’s episode
24:37 - Why birthdays and asking for help are hard these days
26:30 - Why it’s so hard to ride the emotional rollercoaster and focus on the positives
29:50 - What raising beef cattle and my podcast have in common
33:55 - Why this will probably be my least favorite podcast and why I am firing myself as a podcast producer
35:13 - Technology is not my “Zone of Genius” as discussed in the book, The Big Leap
35:40 - Why my fears have been blocking me and this podcast’s success
37:08 - Why I set up a Podcast Patreon when I started this podcast and then never talked about it
41:00 - How you can get a Tami Talks: “Unscripted Notes to My Inner Child” Journal sent to you
44:00 - Why you need to keep doing the “Cha Cha” when it comes to your goals and dreams

Episode #31: Navigating Relationships & Childhood Trauma

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Laura to unpack the complexities of healing from childhood trauma and its impact on our adult relationships. Laura bravely shares her personal story of feeling both inadequate and "too much," revealing how these experiences shaped her approach to love and self-worth. Together, we explore the connections between past wounds and present behaviors, including people-pleasing and the fear of rejection in dating.
This conversation encourages us to embrace our feelings and recognize that true healing requires vulnerability, self-reflection, and a lot of love for our Inner Child.
If you would like to connect to be seen and heard in your story, please use this link to schedule a free Discovery Call with Tami. 
Podcast Mentioned: The Visible Women Podcast
Episode #9: Check Yourself Before You Project Yourself
Show Notes:
00:51 – Welcome to this week’s "therapy session" with Laura
03:37 – Laura shares her childhood story of feeling both not good enough and too much
07:23 – The role of dating in triggering abandonment wounds and fears of rejection
09:50 – Exploring people-pleasing as a form of self-abandonment
15:37 – How feelings of unworthiness block love and opportunities
20:33 – Laura discusses her experience with Bariatric Surgery and the projections of others
23:37 – Processing childhood memories to connect past and present
25:32 – The importance of emotional support during traumatic events
27:26 – How a parent’s wounds affect their ability to nurture
32:15 – Moving through anger and grief toward compassion and forgiveness
34:08 – Ego's role in blocking healing through blame and deflection
35:40 – Healing within relationships: a shared journey
37:36 – Parenting as a reflection of our own childhood experiences
39:40 – Understanding that healing occurs in layers, urging deeper exploration
41:47 – Compounding wounds and the challenge of “just getting over it”
43:27 – The Ego’s search for validation of unworthiness
44:38 – The need to stop objectifying bodies, especially those of children
49:10 – Laura's experience setting boundaries in a relationship with a partner with a porn addiction
55:28 – Recognizing that people meet us at the level of their own healing
57:52 – The alignment of what’s meant for you when you’re ready
1:01:20 – Discussing the desire for more coaching and healing sessions outdoors
1:01:44 – Why many women struggle with being alone
1:02:44 – The concept of rejection as divine protection
1:04:50 – Defining toxic positivity and the need to process feelings
1:07:59 – The search for external validation
1:13:53 – The power of “Bless and Release” in emotional healing
1:19:07 – Understanding projections 

Episode #30: Healing Through Darkness & How To Find The Light

In this deeply personal and unscripted episode, I share why this week’s podcast almost didn’t happen. From navigating the intense energy of the current eclipse to grappling with a sudden darkness that overcame me, I open up about how I reached out for help when I wasn’t okay.
Together with Erika, we explore what it means to support someone in a dark place, embrace spiritual gifts despite the doubt and confusion, and trust the power of intuition. If you’re feeling lost or struggling, remember—you are not alone. This episode is dedicated to finding comfort, relinquishing control, and holding space for one another.
If you need someone to hold space for while you find your way through a dark chapter, please don't hesitate to reach out: www.unscriptedhealingwi.com
Show Notes:
08:00 – How the current eclipse energy is impacting people10:30 – The "I’m not okay" text message I sent to Erika13:05 – How to support someone who is in a dark place16:40 – What it feels like to be an Empath and trust your Intuition22:57 – Erika’s journey of accepting her spiritual gifts despite her religious upbringing26:23 – Discerning when Ego is telling stories and how to detach from them27:58 – How this unscripted podcast came to be31:36 – The power of trusting your Intuition36:36 – Finding and receiving comfort when going through a tough time39:04 – The meaning of "holding space" for someone40:18 – A house plant’s lesson on the need for self-care43:49 – The challenges of uncovering and understanding spiritual gifts45:48 – You don’t have to process difficult emotions in private48:14 – The importance of relinquishing control53:55 – Suicide prevention: reach out if you’re feeling hopeless59:00 – Building the Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing Podcast Community59:30 – You are not alone – find the light in the darkness
Suicide Prevention Resources:
If you or someone you know is struggling with thoughts of suicide, please reach out for support.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (US): Call or text 988
Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
International Helplines: Find local resources hereYou are not alone. There is hope, and help is available.

Episode #29: Breaking The Cycle of Addiction

In this episode, we dive deep into Susan's powerful story of overcoming addiction and the layers of healing she has uncovered along the way. From her struggles with heroin and cocaine to addressing other self-harming behaviors, Susan shares how the journey of recovery has led her to profound revelations about her worthiness, childhood wounds, and connections to a Higher Power.
Join us as we explore her path to self-love, her ongoing healing with her children, and the ripple effect of sharing one’s truth. If you need any support around any of these topics, please reach out. Tami is just a Free Discovery Call away and can help you connect you with other resources if needed.
Show Notes:
2:22 – A presentation to Realtors confirms a deeper purpose in my journey.
3:55 – Why Susan was the perfect guest to share her story of addiction.
4:55 – How a supplement company brought us together.
10:55 – Recording beachside and its connection to Susan's healing journey.
14:35 – Susan's experience with 3 years of addiction treatment and recovery.
15:44 – Addressing other self-harming behaviors after overcoming heroin and cocaine.
18:30 – The layered nature of healing and the journey into childhood wounds.
20:33 – A deeper layer of Susan’s worthiness wound revealed while wedding dress shopping.
30:16 – The importance of connection to a Higher Power and meaningful relationships.
32:00 – Susan's childhood story of pain, manipulation, and addiction.
35:46 – Internalizing guilt about breaking up her family.
41:00 – Escaping her life and entering a toxic relationship.
43:50 – Developing a narcotics addiction at 24, losing her job, and getting a felony.
46:19 – How the Ego protects the Inner Child in extreme ways.
48:46 – Reaching rock bottom and how it almost made her take her life.
53:38 – Susan’s ongoing healing journey with her children.
57:22 – Finding her “person” and how they support each other.
59:22 – Learning self-love in this new phase of life.
1:09:09 – Susan's message to anyone who resonates with her story.
1:10:22 – The ripple effect of sharing your story.

Episode #28: Healing the Inner Child: Boundaries, Triggers, and Finding Peace Through Forgiveness

In this episode, I chat with my close friend Jen, the person who pushed me into starting this podcast. Jen shares how she helped me confront my worthiness wounds, set healthy boundaries, and break free from the "Grind Mentality." We dive into the challenges of parenting, managing triggers as an adult, and living in a multi-generational home where her Inner Child is triggered and trying to heal all at the same time.
Jen gets vulnerable in what turned out to be a somewhat of a "therapy session" in regards to helping her Inner Child release the anger she has felt stuck in and feel safe enough to finally grieve the loss of the childhood she deserved.
If anything in this episode hits home and you want help validating your story, please reach out and schedule a FREE Discovery Call. You don't have to go through any of the phases of life alone! 
In this Episode:
00:00 - Introduction and welcome to Jen
02:13 - Jen’s first impression of me and how she called me out like a creeper 04:03 - Recognizing and addressing the worthiness wound
06:17 - Learning about healthy boundaries and the mantra “Clear is Kind”
09:07 - Challenging the “Grind Mentality” and the concept of “F the Should's”
13:37 - Jen’s decision to pause her podcast launch despite having all the equipment
17:45 - Managing low capacity and high triggers
20:51 - The pressures of parenting and the impact on mental health
21:51 - How a small trigger, like forgetting water, affects Jen’s Inner Child
25:40 - The challenges of caring for her mother and its effect on her Inner Child
31:12 - Why “mom friends” are shifting from saying “I’m fine” to more honest conversations
33:00 - The emotional impact of not being seen or heard: anger, grief, and sadness
37:44 - Living in a multi-generational home after running away at 18
41:29 - Seeking forgiveness by finding inner peace and letting go of outcomes
47:49 - Balancing acknowledgment of parental impact with taking responsibility for personal healing
50:09 - How Jen’s Ego protected her Inner Child from feeling unwanted
52:26 - Parenting differently while healing her own Inner Child
55:07 - The need to grieve the loss of an unfulfilled childhood
1:00:07 - What Jen’s Inner Child would say if she could speak her truth
If anything in this episode hits home and you want help validating your story, please reach out and schedule a FREE Discovery Call. You don't have to go through any of the phases of life alone! 

Episode #27: Inner Child Healing Retreat: Life-Changing Transformations & Emotional Breakthroughs

In this special episode, we’re changing things up with 5 incredible guests who joined me at our first-ever Inner Child Healing Retreat in Sedona, Arizona. Together with my co-healer Zoe, we dive into the life-changing moments that unfolded, sharing stories of healing, spiritual reconnections, and personal breakthroughs. Listen as these brave women share the impact of the retreat, from unlocking childhood memories to releasing suppressed emotions, and discover the power of nurturing your Inner Child.
The Next Inner Child Healing Retreat is November 14-17th, 2014 and as of release date, there are only 6 spots left! Secure yours with one of the two links below: 
Early Registration: Followed by 3-monthly payments. 
Paid in Full: Which gets you a 1-hour session with Tami or Zoe during the retreat. 
Show Notes:
00:51 - This week’s special episode features 5 guests from our Inner Child Retreat.
02:36 - Special announcement for the next Inner Child Retreat.
03:26 - Welcoming Zoe, my co-healer, and sharing takeaways from the retreat.
08:42 - Meet the 5 amazing women who attended the retreat.
09:34 - What inspired these ladies to join the first-ever Inner Child Healing Retreat.
17:23 - Colleen’s story triggers deep emotions and memories for Sarah.
23:20 - Karen’s spiritual moment of reconnecting with her Inner Child.
29:50 - Lisa allows her Inner Child to be heard and validated.
34:19 - Julie identifies when her Inner Child began making decisions for others.
38:03 - Sarah’s powerful release of years of suppressed anger.
41:05 - The transformation when your Inner Child and Ego trust you to heal.
41:35 - A group of young girls saves the day during a hike when morale dips.
44:47 - Karen releases shame and embraces self-love, impacting everyone.
49:19 - The healing power of being witnessed by others on your journey.
50:40 - Day two of the retreat: Activating the Highest Self and Sedona’s energy.
54:40 - Colleen’s transformative healing session experience.
58:00 - Tapping into your unique gifts during the retreat.
59:50 - Sarah’s "Sedona High" and its lasting impact on her life.
1:01:25 - Julie’s test to stay committed to her Inner Child during the retreat.
1:06:20 - Karen’s challenge at work after returning from the retreat.
1:08:39 - The power of vulnerability in a safe, supportive space.
1:12:17 - How Karen integrated energy work with her Christian faith and recovery journey.
1:14:10 - Advice from the women to anyone curious about joining the Inner Child Healing Retreat:
Lisa: “You are worth investing in yourself.”
Karen: “Nothing is a coincidence. You’re listening to this for a reason.”
Sarah: “Follow your curiosity because it can change your life.”
Julie: “You can’t afford not to. It’s the best investment you’ll ever make.”
Colleen: “Go on this journey so you can fully be YOU.”
1:22:33 - The sacrifices these women made to invest in their healing journeys.
1:24:10 - Zoe’s wrap-up and final good-byes.