Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing

Episode #19: Behind the Scenes of Food, Fashion, & Lifestyle Bloggers - Everyday M&K

Tune in to hear how two "Good Enough" Bloggers turned their passion for food, fashion, fun, and community into a successful social media following of over 52,000 followers and into a career they love by following their Intuition!
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Links to find Everyday M&K:
https://www.amazon.com/shop/everydaymandk
https://www.facebook.com/everydaymandk/
https://www.everydaymandk.com/
https://www.shopltk.com/explore/everydaymandk
In this Episode:
Intro - Brava Magazine Feature
8:52 - Official Everyday M&K Welcome
10:14 - Melissa & Katie's Journey Before Everyday M&K
12:20 - How Melissa & Katie Found Each Other
15:06 - Katie’s “Divine Intervention” That Signaled a Turning Point
17:45 - Taking the Step You Fear Might Not Be the Perfect One
18:05 - Katie’s Favorite Quote: “Nothing in life is so permanent that you can’t change it.”
18:31 - Overcoming the Fear of Failure
19:54 - The Difficult Decision That Led to Creating the Blog
20:33 - “This Has Not Been the Perfect Journey”
21:24 - How a Hobby or Interest Can Be a Clue or Stepping Stone
22:18 - Sponsorship Time: It’s My Fit Tribe
23:10 - Tami Talks: Free “Why Not You” Workshop for Everyday M&K Followers and Listeners of the Podcast
24:24 - Workshop Information - Link in the Show Notes
26:06 - Back to the Episode: The “Tower Moment” That Changed Everything
28:00 - Growing from a Part-Time to a Full-Time Blog
31:17 - The Myth of “If They Build It, They Will Come”
32:47 - “If We Keep Going…”
33:09 - Three Years of Grit to Match Their Previous Income
33:43 - “Good & Bad Blog Days”
34:48 - Growing Their Instagram Following & Joining the LTK Affiliate Program
38:10 - What Really Happens Behind the Scenes to Run the Blog
39:50 - How They Earn an Income Through the Blog
42:30 - Blogging for Fun vs. Blogging to Earn an Income
44:27 - Measuring Success by the Fun You’re Having
45:58 - Adjusting to Highs and Lows and How They Trigger Childhood Wounds
49:46 - Differences in People-Pleasing Between Melissa and Katie
50:42 - How People Project Their Childhood Wounds Onto Them
54:52 - “You Are Not Going to Steal My Joy”
55:15 - Katie’s Biggest Takeaway: The Importance of Good Communication
58:00 - The Experience of Going into Business with Someone Else
1:00:15 - We Are All Wounded but Not All Aware
1:02:40 - Letting Go of Things That No Longer Serve You
1:03:50 - The Blessing of Closed Doors and Avoiding “Golden Handcuffs”
1:05:19 - Balancing Authenticity with Protecting Family Privacy
1:11:33 - Everyone Has Issues and the “Weirdness” of Social Media
1:13:22 - The “Good Enough” Bloggers
1:15:08 - The Concept of “Make Your Bed”
1:16:03 - Why Melissa Returned to Therapy
1:18:02 - Inner Child Neglect When You’re “All Work and No Play”
1:20:10 - The Power of Thinking Outside the Box and Taking Risks
1:21:38 - Allowing Yourself to Figure Out What Works and What Doesn’t
1:22:20 - Don’t Live with Regret
Episode Sponsored By: My Fit Tribe
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Episode #18: Turning Pain Into Purpose

The trauma Korbey White has faced, even before he took his first breath, will leave you shaking your head in disbelief. Yet, just as quickly, falling in love with the story of a young boy who found a way, not only to survive, but to thrive and now helping others do the same.
Like Korbey, your childhood wounds are NOT your fault, but they are your responsibility to heal so you can find your purpose!
Show Notes: 
00:50 - Introduction
03:45 - Welcome to our guest, Korbey White
10:49 - Korbey's journey: Turning Pain into Purpose
11:23 - Experiencing trauma before even taking his first breath
14:22 - His dad’s final words: A turning point for Korbey
15:54 - Childhood trauma: A child's perspective on survival
17:06 - A lesson learned in 3rd grade: Never skip school
18:49 - The impact of a role model on his achievements
21:00 - A defining moment at the age of 15
23:28 - Aspiring to attend college amidst uncertainties about survival
26:22 - The phrase “You’ll never make it” igniting his determination
28:04 - The influence of Barry Alvarez & Dean Jeffry Thomas on his life
31:00 - The resolve to avoid dying on the streets
35:20 - "Trauma has been the foundation of my life"
35:40 - Transforming Pain into Purpose
37:56 - The growth of JP Hair Design’s Back to School Event
39:46 - Korbey’s impact on students today
45:25 - How God uses Korbey as His vessel
51:37 - The pivotal turning point in his life
56:29 - Discovering his purpose in 2020
59:33 - The importance of solitude and "Turning Off the Noise"
1:01:24 - The risks of self-abandonment in service to others
1:07:17 - The crucial need for men to seek mental health support
1:09:49 - Increasing awareness of mental health among kids
1:17:00 - His gym community’s outreach efforts
1:18:57 - Korbey’s latest initiative: See Hear Learn LLC
1:24:45 - DJ Khaled: Never Surrender
1:25:44 - How to connect with Korbey and learn more about See Hear Learn
Links: See Hear Learn
https://www.seehearlearn.co/
https://www.instagram.com/seehearlearn/ https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61560494037493
Follow Korbey:
https://www.facebook.com/korbeywhite
https://www.instagram.com/korbeywhite/
Music Links: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_qNU9n7k15g&ab_channel=DJKhaledVEVO

Episode #17: Lies & Loss - How healing her Inner Child helped her find the gift in a very painful package.

I’m not sure how to summarize this episode with Colleen, but I do have to start off by saying that this episode could be very triggering for those who have experienced significant betrayal and or the loss of a child. With that being said, I hope that you allow yourself to watch, listen, and feel all the feels because that is why Colleen is sharing her story - to help others honor their story and find the gifts in the painful packages they were delivered.
2:56 - Introducing the inspiring Colleen Jacobs6:25 - The phone call that awakened her Inner Child9:30 - How her protective Ego went to great lengths to shield her Inner Child11:25 - The consequences of concealing truths with the best intentions15:06 - Uncovering the truth that reopened her abandonment wound 18 years later21:13 - Healing her Inner Child and its impact on her betrayal and abandonment wounds25:30 - Discovering she was pregnant with her fourth child37:40 - The moment of clarity and finding the gift within the pain46:20 - How trauma affects siblings and ways to support them physically and emotionally48:50 - The events that unfolded after her water broke55:19 - The lesson of relinquishing the need for control56:16 - How their son contributed to the family's growth and healing57:00 - Honoring the loss of a child (or any loved one)58:17 - Providing structure during traumatic events to help children feel safe59:06 - The healing and magic at the Inner Child Healing Retreat1:05:26 - How speaking your truth can help others find healing in theirs1:07:05 - Trusting that you are being guided1:11:43 - The necessity of feeling to heal and discover the gifts God has given us1:14:09 - Sharing your gift and feeling safe being seen1:14:59 - Operating in your gifts and the additional level of healing required1:20:05 - Dealing with the question, "Why is this happening to me?"1:22:00 - Remembering that you are never alone

Episode #16: Be the Editor of Your Story. How Jamie Martin went from Intern to Editor of a magazine with over 2 million readers!

Join me as I welcome my special guest, long-time friend, Editor-in-Chief of Experience Life Magazine, and Podcast Host of Life Time Talks, Jamie Martin, for an insightful and empowering conversation about how she went from Intern to Editor. This episode is basically a self-development guide because we covered everything from changing your story to fully embracing your authenticity and everything in between. 
Reflection and feedback on Episode #15 with my dad
Jamie's AMAZING intro
Making choices based on curiosity vs. fear
How emotional safety fosters exploration
Jamie's childhood experiences and their impact
Counterfactual Thinking: What if...
Peer pressure, fitting in, and losing our true selves
Ego-driven fear and reputation damage
Jamie’s past "reputation issues" and their long-term effects
Validating your story to release outdated beliefs
The power of words
Being the Editor of your own story
Old stories reappearing in adulthood
Facing unsupportive individuals in your growth journey
Embracing change and self-identity
Aria's impactful therapy moment
Raising emotionally intelligent kids
The importance of shining your own light
Balancing authenticity and adaptability
Experiencing life fully
The impact of self-narratives
Using setbacks for growth
The value of therapy in personal development
Self-compassion and setting personal standards
Embracing your "humanness" and meeting yourself where you are
What your envy is trying to tell you
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Info & Resources: 
Experience Life Magazine
Life Time Talks Podcast
Instagram: Experience Life
Instagram: Jamie Martin
"The Power of Meaning: Crafting a Life That Matters," Emily Esfahani Smith
Byron Katie

Episode #15: Releasing Emotional Trauma 55 Years Later

We take care of physical wounds, but often neglect, bury, or suppress emotional wounds that may linger long after a physical injury.
Join me and my dad, for this special Father's Day Tami Talks Podcast, as he opens up for the first time in almost 55 years about a tractor accident that changed his and his twin brother's life forever when they were just 11 years old.
In this episode we talk about:
Did you "deal" with your trauma or just suppress it?
You might not remember, but your body and Inner Child still do.
Why YOU need to validate your Inner Child's story.
What it means when unexpected emotions come up.
Why you remember details of specific events/conversations.
How suppressed emotional trauma can show up in your adult life.
"That's the way it always was," doesn't means you didn't need support.
Breaking generational patterns by allowing ourselves to FEEL & HEAL.
How to reparent your Inner Child through past traumatic events.
How sharing your story can help YOU and others heal.
*Thank you for bearing with the "small town" technology audio and visual limitations we ran into on this episode. I HIGHLY recommend watching this episode on YouTube to experience the raw emotions that came through. 
If this episode resonated with you and your Inner Child in any way, please let me know by liking, commenting, and/or sharing this episode with people in your life who it could help.
 
 

Episode# 14: Transforming Sexual Shame into Empowerment

*I tried out new mini-microphones for guest episodes and apparently there is a learning curve! So, thank you again for bearing with me as I navigate this "producer" stuff on my own and continue to fail forward!! 
Okay back to this episode where I am taking the advice of Salt-N-Pepa when they sang, "Let's Talk About $eX Baby" back in 1991 and finally having the conversation about the deep connections between sexuality, shame, and self-discovery.
Join me and expert guest, Psychotherapist and Sex Therapist Christie Bemis, as we explore the roots of sexual shame, the importance of feeling safe, and the power of feminine energy.
In this episode, Christie shares her insights on...
How childhood experiences shape our sexual wellness
The challenges women face in embracing their changing bodies
Practical tips for overcoming discomfort around sexuality
Learn how to find your voice, prioritize your sexual wellness, and connect with your feminine energy.
Tune in for an enlightening discussion that promises to empower you to embrace your sexuality, heal from shame, and step fully into your feminine power!
If you want super detailed show notes, here you go! 
7:07: Exploring Shame
8:24: Who is Christie Bemis
10:58 How Inner Child Work and Sexuality are intertwined 
11:40: Sexual Shame begins in childhood 
15:19: How young boys and girls were taught and not taught sex education
18:22: What does shame do around sex?
18:55: Hitting roadblocks of a woman’s changing body
19:50: Why women need to feel safe before feeling pleasure
21:16: Why you are responsible for your “turn on” 
23:45: Where to start when anything sexual feels uncomfortable
25:20: How to explore self touch in a safe way for kids and adults 
25:55: How People Pleasing gets in the way of speaking up
28:50: How to find your voice around what you want and need
29:40: Why putting yourself in community with other women is so important
32:00: How becoming a mother can de-prioritize sexual wellness 
33:33: Allow yourself to get help just like you would go to a doctor if sick
37:40: Why we suppress our feminine energy to stay “safe” or fit in to society’s conditioning
41:04: What envy and jealously are trying to tell you about your own desires
43:08: How feeling unworthy can impact your sexuality and block your creativity, emotions, money, etc.
45:45: How to feel safe within your body and “safe enough” to explore your sexuality
47:50: Why we dim our light and how to stand in it
52:06: Why it is so important to look at your childhood wounds and your relationship with your sexuality
55:33: Why women feel safer operating in their masculine energy and have a hard time receiving
57:53: Why tapping into your feminine energy is so important, powerful, and necessary
59:00: How we can start to tap into our feminine energy
1:02:00 How to find and work with Christie Bemis
As always, if anything in this episode resonated with you, please comment and let us know! 
About Christie: Christie Bemis is a psychotherapist, a $ex educator and relationship coach, an ignite your life mentor, and author. She co-founded and now owns and operates Hot Pink YOUniversity, solo. She is a $ex Educator and Relationship Coach, trained in the Somatica® Method of relationships and intimacy building, as well as certified in Level 1 of John Gottmans work. Her work ignites women and couples to reconnect with passions, purpose and play. You can find her coaching, her book, her wisdom cards and her offerings at www.hotpinkyou.com And all of her links: https://linktr.ee/christiebemis
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Episode #13: When a Child Doesn't Feel Seen: The Roots of the "Perfectionist" and the "Problem Child"

Have you ever wondered why some adults struggle with perfectionism, overachieving, or overgiving? The answer often lies in childhood experiences. When a child doesn't feel seen or validated, their ego gets creative to meet this fundamental need. This can lead to patterns of behavior that persist into adulthood, impacting their emotional well-being and relationships.
In this video, we delve into the psychological roots of these behaviors, exploring:
The Role of the Ego: How a child's sense of self adapts when their emotional needs aren't met.
Perfectionism: Why the drive to be perfect can be a response to feeling invisible.
Overachieving: How striving for success and recognition becomes a way to gain the validation they missed as a child. Overgiving: The tendency to put others' needs before their own, hoping to earn love and acceptance.
Problem Child: How Ego can take the need to feel seen to extremes.
 
Understanding these patterns is the first step towards healing and developing healthier ways of relating to your kids, oneself, and others.
 
Please let me know in the comments if something in the episode resonates with you and your Inner Child! Thanks for listening and know that I'm sending you and your Inner Child so much love and healing!!
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Episode #12: Do You See Me? (Fear of Rejection)

As children, we all yearn to be truly seen and accepted for who we are. However, if our ego fears it's unsafe to be authentic—due to potential ridicule, exclusion, or lack of affection—it develops protective mechanisms that persist into adulthood, compelling us to seek visibility at any cost.
In this Episode:
How my fear of abandonment and rejection got my attention through my physical body.
How physical symptoms could be clues to deeper wounds.
How "setbacks" may actually be a deeper level of healing.
How ignoring your emotions and intuition can feel like abandonment.
How wearing masks to fit in (stay safe) is a form of self-rejection.
How not allowing your kids or yourself to feel all of your feelings is a form of rejection and abandonment.
Stop telling your kids and yourself that "You're fine!"
How my Inner Child left me clues to heal and show up!
 
Please let me know in the comments if something in the episode resonates with you and your Inner Child! Thanks for listening and know that I'm sending you and your Inner Child so much love and healing!!
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Episode #11: Control vs Surrender

Controlling certain aspects of your life is a coping strategy that your Ego adopted to protect your Inner Child growing up. But that same control that gave you a sense of safety as a child is what is likely blocking you and your blessings now in your adult life.
In this episode, we dive into what happens when we resist change and try to control the outcomes versus surrender to the process and Tami gives lots of real-life examples from when she had to learn these lessons the hard way!
Please let me know in the comments if something in the episode resonates with you and your Inner Child! Thanks for listening and know that I'm sending you and your Inner Child so much love and healing!!
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Episode #10: Heal So Your Kids Don't Have To!

Your childhood wounds are NOT your fault, but they are YOUR responsibility to heal. If not for you, then please do it for your kids!
In this episode, I share my most shameful parenting moment and how this work has allowed me to learn and heal from it so I could finally release it after years of carrying around an immense amount of guilt and shame.
I also dive into...
Why parents get triggered when kids waste food
The importance of allowing kids to self-regulate
Why it is important to own your mistakes as parents
Increasing your awareness so you don’t project your wounds onto your kids
How to create emotional safety for your kids by starting with yourself
Please let me know in the comments if something in the episode resonates with you and your Inner Child! Thanks for listening and know that I'm sending you and your Inner Child so much love and healing!!
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