Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing

Episode #56: Why We Sabotage A Good Thing - A Hidden Need For Control

Have you ever caught yourself sabotaging a good thing—whether it’s a relationship, opportunity, weight loss efforts, gym streak, or personal success—without really knowing why?
You're not alone. In this deeply personal episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, I open up about my own experiences with self-sabotage and why we often push away the very things we desire. It’s not because we don’t want health, happiness, or wealth—it’s because if you have unhealed childhood wounds, your nervous system is still wired for chaos and control, not peace and safety.
*Trigger Warning for anyone who has experienced a miscarriage or loss of a child. I talk about it only regarding the lack of support women receive - and send anyone who has experienced either so much love and healing. 
This journey of healing is messy, ongoing, and beautifully unscripted—but the more we understand ourselves, the more we can step into the love, joy, and success we truly deserve.
Show Notes:
00:00 Introduction and Exciting Announcements
07:35 Understanding Self-Sabotage
16:19 The Craving for Control and Its Roots
26:57 Recalibrating to Peace and Stability
27:45 The Journey to Worthiness 30:45 Investing in Self-Care
33:11 Navigating Guilt and Shame 35:32 Overcoming Self-Sabotage
38:24 Embracing Success and Authenticity
41:40 Rewriting Internal Narratives
44:16 Creating Safety Within
48:52 Breaking Free from Self-Sabotage
54:32 Seeking Support and Healing
Episodes Mentioned:
Episode #17: Lies & Loss (Colleen)
Episode #8: What Self-Sabotage Really Is

Episode #55: How Healing Your Inner Child Can Unlock Your Career Potential

Join Tami and Stephanie Freiboth, Executive Career Coach, as they explore the deep connections between self-discovery, empowerment, and career growth through the lens of inner child work. 
This conversation delves into childhood trauma, self-worth, emotional resilience, and the power of supportive communities. Whether you're navigating a career transition, seeking balance, or working through personal growth, this episode offers insightful reflections and actionable takeaways to help you step into your full potential.
Find Stephanie: 
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Ready to take your career to new heights?  Schedule your connection call with Stephanie
Episode Chapters:
00:00 – Introduction & Connection
05:11 – Empowered Careers & Personal Growth
08:07 – Understanding Trauma & Personal Experiences
11:03 – The Importance of Support & Community
13:44 – Navigating Worthiness & Self-Identity
16:52 – Seasons of Life & Communication Needs
31:02 – Navigating Relationship Changes
34:13 – Grieving the Past Self
37:39 – Understanding Emotional Support
41:15 – Modeling Healthy Communication
44:39 – Empowering Women in Career Transitions
48:59 – Finding Balance in Life
54:07 – Setting Clear Expectations
56:46 – Embracing Change with Compassion
59:44 – Finding Time for Self-Care
01:03:01 – The Importance of Mental Clarity
01:06:03 – Connecting with Your Inner Child
01:10:09 – Facing Fears & Self-Assessment
01:14:23 – Proactive vs. Reactive Living
01:17:11 – Building Authentic Relationships

Episode #54: Breaking Free: How Childhood Trauma Shapes Us & The Path to Healing

What if the patterns you struggle with today are rooted in your childhood? In this thought-provoking episode with my gym buddy - Jason, we dive deep into the connections between early emotional experiences, personal growth, and energy awareness.
From childhood conditioning to coping mechanisms that no longer serve us, we explore how our past influences our present relationships, behaviors, and even our struggles with change.
If you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns, struggled with emotional triggers, or wondered how to step into your most authentic self, this episode is for you. Tune in for a raw, insightful conversation about breaking cycles, reclaiming your power, and listening to the whispers of life.
Want to have a conversation like this with Tami to help connect the dots from your childhood? Schedule a session to get the "ah-ha" moments you need to connect the dots! 
If something in this episode resonated with you, please remember to leave a comment and rate the episode! 
Show Notes:
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
02:04 Exploring Energy and Connection
04:20 Life Experiences and Personal Growth
08:28 Childhood Reflections and Emotional Needs
12:56 The Journey of Self-Discovery
17:09 Navigating Relationships and Healing
21:04 Quitting Smoking and Mental Challenges
24:10 Facing Triggers and Emotional Numbing
27:22 The Impact of Childhood Conditioning
28:37 Breaking the Cycle of Emotional Suppression
29:40 The Masks We Wear: Authenticity vs. Expectations
31:58 Empathy and the Weight of Others' Emotions
34:46 Navigating Energy in Crowded Spaces
34:56 Lessons from the Past: Motorcycle Club Experiences
37:17 Evolving Social Circles and Spiritual Missions
41:02 Learning from Failures and Life Experiences
43:49 The Journey to Self-Acceptance and Worthiness
48:32 Finding Joy Beyond External Validation
55:06 The Overflow Effect: Pouring Into Yourself
57:00 Breaking Stereotypes and Embracing Curiosity
59:58 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Purpose
01:02:02 Healing Through Expression and Creativity
01:04:48 The Importance of Energy Management
01:07:22 Identity and the Evolution of Self
01:10:23 Embracing Change and Personal Growth
01:13:17 Messages in Music and Life's Lessons
01:15:42 Listening to Your Body and Life's Whispers
Previous Episodes Mentioned: 
Episode #52: The Audacity to Celebrate—Why Women Are Taught to Play Small
Episode 44: The Sound of Silence and What It Reveals

Episode #53: The Teacher Who Saw Me: A Conversation with My 3rd Grade Teacher

The best teachers don’t just teach—they nurture, empower, and create safe spaces for kids to thrive. In this 1-Year Anniversary episode, I reconnect with my 3rd-grade teacher, Mrs. Serres, to talk about what it really means to see and support a child beyond the classroom.
What may look like a “bad student” on the surface is often just a child who needs to feel seen, heard, and supported, and Mrs. Serres has a gift for making kids feel safe, valued, and capable of anything.
Together, we explore the emotional side of teaching, the importance of intentionally fostering happiness and emotional resilience, and why helping kids trust their intuition is one of the greatest gifts we can give.
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Show Notes:
10:27 – Choosing passion over status in teaching
12:48 – When and why kids start to succumb to peer pressure
15:15 – The moment my teacher made me feel seen
24:54 – Teaching kids how to tap into their own joy
33:22 – The Ripple Effect: Small actions that change lives
37:54 – How to encourage kids to believe they CAN do anything
41:08 – The importance of feeling seen
43:15 – Why teachers (and parents) must model emotional regulation & the ability to apologize
46:46 – The moment that shaped (or maybe saved) Heidi’s teaching career
51:25 – The danger of projecting our past struggles onto our kids
53:36 – Helping kids feel safe expressing ALL their emotions
56:02 – Why being clear and honest with kids helps them develop strong intuition
1:02:11 – The impact of eye contact and truly seeing someone
Episodes Mentioned:
#10: Heal So Your Kids Don't Have To
#50: 6-Year-Old Insights on Big Emotions, Self-Regulation, & Love
This episode is packed with wisdom, heart, and the reminder that sometimes, all we need is to be seen.
If a teacher ever made an impact on your life, comment on this episode and go tell them today!

Episode #52: The Audacity to Celebrate—Why Women Are Taught to Play Small

"How dare you not only win but have the audacity to celebrate?!"
Too often, women are shamed for owning their success and taking up space. In this powerful conversation with Dr. Sagashus Levingston, we unpack why bold energy makes people uncomfortable, how conformity keeps us small, why motherhood should not be rooted in sacrifice, and why sisterhood is the key to breaking free.
You can find Dr. Sagashus Levingston on LinkedIn and Instagram at Infamous.Mothers. 
 
If anything in this episode resonated with you, please leave a comment and rate the episode! If you'd like to support the podcast and become part of the Tami Talks Tribe, join the Patreon! 
Episode Breakdown:
2:46 – Meet my guest, Dr. Sagashus Levingston—her journey, expertise, and impact4:20 – How I met Sagashus and knew the meeting was "divine"6:57 – What Serena Williams' Crip Walk really symbolized at the Super Bowl14:29 – The backlash against winning: "How dare you not only win, but celebrate?!"16:15 – Why celebrating success can trigger others’ feelings of inadequacy17:54 – Why we all need to show up as the Pink Highlighter in a world that wants us to blend in24:11 – What is your Crip Walk? (The thing you were once shamed for but could reclaim today)26:00 – The destruction that followed when Sagashus bought her dream home28:47 – New Level, New Devil: The resistance I faced at our last retreat30:14 – Why attacks in our lives are often tied to our greatest gifts 34:10 – The power of perspective: Nothing is wasted37:09 – How Sagashus used her truth to unlock healing and growth43:15 – The Power of Grit—how resilience shapes our path47:29 – Redefining motherhood: Strength, mobility, and collective care over self-sacrifice52:55 – The most sincere compliment I’ve ever received1:02:30 – When pushback almost made Sagashus retreat, but she built a sisterhood instead1:12:24 – How society tries to prevent women from forming sisterhoods and instills fear around Life After 40Final Takeaways – Sagashus shares her wisdom and a message for listeners
This is your permission slip to stop playing small. Let’s break free, claim our space, and celebrate our wins—without apology!

Episode #51: The Epidemic of Adult Bullying with Christina Lorey

Bullying doesn’t stop after childhood—it just evolves. In this episode, I sit down with Christina Lorey, Editor of UpNorthNews, to explore the reality of adult bullying and the ways it shows up in workplaces, online, and even within our communities. We discuss why the biggest bullies often aren’t kids, how our words shape the world around us, and why it takes courage to create instead of criticize.
Plus, we dive into small acts of kindness, the power of compassion, and the responsibility we all have for the energy we bring into spaces. If you've ever been hurt by words—or want to be more mindful of the ones you use—this episode is for you.
Follow Christina Lorey on Facebook and subscribe to UpNorthNews 
Show Notes:
02:51 – Rise. Renew. Rebirth Retreat in Sedona, April 9-13
07:45 – Welcome my guest, Christina Lorey, Editor of UpNorthNews
14:56 – How Christina works to “uplift” the news despite negativity
20:00 – Why the biggest bullies aren’t children
30:02 – What it really means when something triggers you
33:01 – How the words our kids hear shape their beliefs and self-worth
41:39 – Why do we want to see others struggle instead of offering support?
44:41 – Christina flips the script and asks me a question
50:04 – Finding compassion for those who hurt you with words
53:33 – The courage to create vs. the ease of criticizing
58:04 – Small acts of kindness and the ripple effect they create
1:04:19 – The responsibility of our energy
1:07:16 – How to follow Christina & sign up for her newsletter
✨ Tune in now and let’s talk about breaking cycles, choosing kindness, and shifting the way we show up in the world. ✨

Episode #50: 6-Year-Old Insights on Big Emotions, Self-Regulation, & Love

Join me for a special 50th episode with my 6-year-old son, Arlo, and his monkey, Stuart! We talk about co-creating with the Universe, managing BIG emotions, and the importance of keeping promises to our kids and Inner Child.
Arlo shares his unique perspective on self-regulation, the importance of tone and energy, and what every adult can learn from a 6-year-old about unconditional love and emotional balance. It’s an episode that will leave you laughing, reflecting, and reconnecting with the magic of your own Inner Child!
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Show Notes:
01:45 – Celebrating a BIG 50th Episode Milestone with one of my favorites03:41 – How to co-create with God and the Universe07:21 – Where did my imagination go?09:19 – When Hulk takes over Legos and mom also needs to self-regulate12:47 – Where Arlo feels sadness and anger in his body and what he does to feel better15:59 – What parents can do when their kids have BIG feelings?18:12 – Why keeping your promises to your child (and Inner Child) is a BIG deal19:17 – When Hulk makes poor decisions and leaves Arlo to clean up the “mess”22:59 – Why we need to be careful of our tone and energy27:57 – What is a “Love Cup” and how to fill it31:40 – Arlo’s reminder for adults
Episodes with his sister, Aria: 
Episode #22: Healing My Relationship with My Daughter
Episode #40: Milestones, Memories, & The Depths Beneath the Surface 

Episode 49: Healing the Inner Child & Embracing Your Feminine Power

From embracing the dark feminine energy to breaking free from the “good girl” conditioning, Zoe and I dive into the wounds that shape us, the armor we wear, and the freedom that comes when we finally feel safe to be seen. Plus, we unpack the impact of childhood wounds, the power of deep healing immersion, and why taking a break from daily life is sometimes the exact medicine we need.
✨ Ready to step into your healing? Learn more about the Rise, Renew, Rebirth Retreat here!
Show Notes:
5:53 – The retreat experience: what happens when you step into a space of healing and deep immersion
8:20 – Balancing the "Good Girl" and embracing your dark feminine energy
10:46 – How childhood wounds and silenced emotions still impact us today
19:27 – Navigating independence, removing shame, and reclaiming your truth
24:08 – When a small pebble in your shoe creates a big wound (and what that means in life)
26:24 – Pressing pause on everyday life to tend to your Inner Child and the Woman within
29:57 – What it’s like to feel safe to be seen—without your armor
36:50 – When someone else’s light triggers you: what it reveals about you
43:12 – Special retreat incentive for taking inspired action, $500 OFF until 2/22/25!
✨ Ready to step into your healing? Learn more about the Rise, Renew, Rebirth Retreat here!
Episodes Mentioned:
#2: Lose Yourself to Find Yourself (Zoe)
#48: The Wake-Up Call: From Rock Bottom to a Life of Purpose (Katie)
#42: The Dance Between Masculine & Feminine Energy: Healing After Divorce (Andrew)
#36: Redefining Masculinity: From Tough Guy to Devoted Husband (Santino)

Episode #48: The Wake-Up Call: From Rock Bottom to a Life of Purpose

Katie’s story reveals how our childhood environments can create deep wounds that the Ego tries to protect by disconnecting us from our true selves. After years of addiction and a life-changing car crash that led to her intervention, Katie began a courageous journey of healing, uncovering the love and worth that had always been within her.
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Show Notes:
01:59 – How I learned about Katie after she officiated a mutual friend’s wedding
08:28 – How Katie ended up in Texas and found her sobriety
12:18 – Katie’s childhood story and how it shaped her foundation
22:14 – The decisions and choices Ego makes to protect the Inner Child
25:58 – Embracing vulnerability and the parts of us that Ego tried to protect by hiding
32:43 – Illuminating self-discovery and the need to feel seen in your experience
37:58 – The ripple effects of addiction
42:52 – How self-love can help heal abandonment wounds
47:27 – When addiction and trauma prevent you from doing what you know you should do
51:18 – How boundaries can allow you to have and give unconditional love for others and yourself
56:43 – Why healing can feel incredibly lonely and help you build a new baseline
1:01:48 – Co-creating your reality and how Arlo manifests
1:04:46 – Dealing with resentment and helping your Inner Child heal
1:07:27 – When you are purpose-driven and trust in God’s plan
1:12:29 – The catalyst for Katie’s journey to sobriety
✨ This episode is a reminder that no matter how lost we feel, healing is possible, and sometimes, it starts with just one person showing up for us.
Episodes Mentioned: #47: If They Wanted To, They Would
 

Episode #47: If They Wanted To, They Would: Embracing 'Let Them' for Healing Childhood Wounds

Have you ever found yourself stuck on the phrase, "If they wanted to, they would"? This belief can sting deeply, especially when it triggers unhealed wounds from childhood. In this episode, we’ll explore the emotional layers behind this phrase and why shifting to a "Let Them" mindset can open the door to healing and freedom.
Through personal stories, divine messages, and practical insights, we’ll uncover how to let go, break the cycle of pain, and embrace acceptance—all while healing your inner child.
Support the Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing Podcast by becoming part of the "Tami Tribe" Patreon! 
Show Notes:
01:31 – How a “Code Blue” confirmed the message I am channeling
05:57 – Challenging the phrase, “If they wanted to, they would”
11:35 – The shift to “Let Them”
15:14 – How “If they wanted to, they would” triggers childhood wounds
17:18 – How Arlo’s framed banana was a teaching moment
24:40 – What would you do differently if you survived a code blue?
34:03 – When God sends a message from above to get your attention
38:01 – Heal so you can “Let Them”
40:45 – Do you have a “Betrayal Wound?”
Episodes Mentioned: 
Episode #44: The Sound of Silence
Episode #34: The Importance of Movement
Join the Conversation: What resonates with you from today’s episode? Have you experienced moments where "If they wanted to, they would" triggered old wounds? Share your story with me in the comments, on social media, or via email at tami@unscriptedhealingwi.com!